At one seminar where I was speaking on the concept of proactivity, a man came up and said, “Stephen, I like what you are saying.
“But every situation is so different. Look at my marriage. I’m really worried.
“My wife and I don’t have the same feelings for each other we used to have. I guess I just don’t love her anymore and she doesn’t love me. What can I do?”
“The feeling isn’t there anymore?” I asked.
“That’s right,” he reaffirmed. “And we have three children we’re really concerned about. What do you suggest?”
“Love her,” I replied.
“I told you, the feeling just isn’t there anymore.”
“You don’t understand. The feeling of love just isn’t there.”
“Then love her. If the feeling isn’t there, that’s a good reason to love her.”
“But how do you love when you don’t love?”
“My friend, love is a verb. Love – the feeling – is a fruit of love, the verb.
“So love her.
“Listen to her.
“Are you willing to do that?”
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© Musawenkosi Tshoaele, 2011