"You attract what you (subconsciously) think about."
When you think good things about someone, you are wishing them well and good things will also be returned to you, in multiples.
This is what you may know as Karma or the Law of Cause and Effect.
But you must keep in mind that this works both ways too.
When you think ill thoughts about someone, you are wishing bad things on them. And since you are thinking negative thoughts, these thoughts are being sent out in all directions (vibrationally) and then negative people, negative circumstances and negative events will, by law, EVENTUALLY be returned back to YOU.
To tell you the truth, there are times when I find myself holding them (grudges) for the longest of times. Until I remind myself of how irresponsible I am in solving my current circumstances.
It would be irresponsible of you to blame others for your how YOU feel.
How you feel is how YOU feel.
You chose your feelings, just like how you choose your reactions.
And it is these reactions that produce the results you are getting in your life.
Go to this blog post about how you need to take one hundred percent responsibility of your life to see what I mean.
Nobody put a gun to your head and told you to keep having those feelings of hatred over someone who violated your values.
You might think it's an automatic reaction to go from stimuli to reaction, but it is only through habit that you might think it is so.
YOU need to read The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Dr. Stephen R. Covey, which you can BUY on www.Amazon.com, for you to understand what I mean.
You DECIDED to feel they way you want to feel and YOU DECIDED to act the way YOU want to act at all times.
The negative vibes you give out will attract negative circumstances in to your life.
The more intense your emotions is, the faster the results will come into your life.
I used to have a manager who had ugly thoughts about the people she was working with and yet couldn't see how her negative thoughts about others linked to her physical sickness and difficult personal circumstances.
But You MUST become AWARE of this TRUTH - that your dominant thoughts, feelings, words and actions create your life.
What you give out is what you receive back.
What you receive was the result of what you gave.
I never liked the idea of how you give your power over to the person you have a grudge against.
I wonder if I'm the only one who goes through this almost automatic reactions of how your body becomes tense and you start breathing through your nose as you tighten your lips, when you think about or you physically see the person who had done you wrong in some way or the other.
It's as if you lose all physical control of your body because of this one person who has wronged you.
I'm even sure that your IQ drops too when you get like this...it sucks!
A demoralizing state I do not wish on anyone, including you.
I once wrote that what you wish upon another person also remains with you.
There is a saying that also goes along the lines of how when you are angry at someone, it’s like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.
There’s another that goes like how while you are holding grudges, they are out partying.
When you harbor and cultivate and grow negative emotions inside of you, not only would these negatives eat you from the inside out, but you a not participanting in a "Godly" act.
You are sending out a prayer (a prayer/meditation is a prolong or repetitive thought about something or someone) of negativity.
And when you pray (consciously or unconsciously) your "prayer" WILL be answered - you can thank the Law of Cause and Effect for that.
What you put out in the form of repetitive words and dominant thoughts and feelings and deeds, will be returned to you.
This is your Karma speaking back to you.
When you think about someone or something and you are immediately consumed by negative emotion, you might as well get yourself add some humans bones on display and get yourself the latest flying bromstick available at your nearest Witch Market near you.
What you think about (subconsciously) you create, because your dominant thoughts that somehow slip into your subconscious attract the results in your life.
"The Law of Attraction Responds to Your Subconscious Mind."
And the fastest way to get "thought created" results in your life, as in moving the images you are thinking about from your conscious mind to your subconscious mind which is where your core belief system lie and therefore attracts things in your life in accordance to your belief in them , is by attaching an intense emotion to that image.
"Emotionalizing" your thought image.
So when you think or say negative things about someone you are cultivating evil inside of your heart, and evil prayers from the heart are only answered by "the devil."
You might as well be a witch or a devil worshiper.
And that is why no good thing ever comes as consistently and as frequently as you want them to.
Just like the law of attraction states that similar energy attracts similar energy.
If you speak and think about bad things that make you feel bad, more bad things will come your way, and the more you will blame others for what you created, and what you focus on expands.
Keeping you in this vicious cycle until you take responsibility.
Yours in Taking 100% Responsibility,
PS: Don't get me wrong here, if someone as done you wrong then it's only normal for you to feel hurt by this.
By taking responsibility you can move from a state of blaming your victimizer to asking empowering questions of how you could avoid this current pain in the future.
Who knows maybe the problem is not actually with the other person.
Maybe, if you are brave enough to look in to it, the problem is with you. And when you Change YOU First, the pain you are feeling now will cease and you will begin to live life more freely.
In fact, grab a copy of Jack Canfield's The Success Principles: How to Get From Where You Are to Where You Want to Be so that you can live a better life from here on out!
YOU deserve more Success in Your life.