How the teaches conditioned you to believe that failing was worthy of punishment?
How now you see failing as a painful event and your have taught your brain to "protect" you from anything associated with pain, which now also includes anything that you would like to do but happens to have the possiblity of failure in it?
Chances are that you won't even try doing something that you might fail in thanks to your schooling.
This is what will keep you from taking the risks that remove you from your limiting comfort zone, to a possible better environment.
But now since your schooling has programmed you to avoid taking those risks due to the possible humiliation of the possible failure that comes with risk-taking, you will feel stuck at something you feel obligated to be in.
That is one of the reasons I'm against the current syllabus of the schooling system.
It teaches you to have a set of thoughts that are conditioned to conform, because anything outside that circle of conformity is likely to be subject to some form of punishment.
School trains you to become a loyal follower (employee) instead of a seasoned leader (employer).
You are in someone else's pocket always complaining because you would be asking too much of yourself to start THINKING for yourself.
You would rather have someone else doing your thinking for you.
"Most people do not know how to THINK." ~ Earl Nightingale in Lead The Field
That is because you fail to understand that failing is a part of success.
No parent told their child to give up trying to walk every time they kept falling.
When you fell as you were learning to walk and got bruises every time you did, you never said:
» "Oh well it can't be done."
» "I give up."
» "I will never happen for me."
» "It's impossible." (See Les Brown Website www.LesBrown.com)
» "So and so won't let me to it."
» "I can't do it because this person is stopping me from doing it."
» "It's too cold/ sunny/ rainy/ windy/ cloudy today so I can't..."
» "I don't have the X,Y and Z I need for me to do it."
No, what you DID do was to be COMMITTED and DETERMINED to learn how to walk, No Matter What!
You were GOING to walk and there was no two ways about it.
If you were going to fall, so be it.
But you were going to learn how to work whether it was the last thing you did.
As clumsy as you were, you walked confidently in your clumsiness.
You bumped your head, you cried, but the next day you were doing your confident, clumsy walk again, ACTING AS IF, until you finally go it!
Until You were Successful!
It's no wonder the majority of the people in the world know how to walk.
They knew that failing (falling) was part of the process to succeeding.
You knew this too.
Until you went to school that is...
"Would you like me to give you a formula for success? It's quite simple, really. Double your rate of failure. You're thinking of failure as the enemy of success. But it isn't at all... You can be discouraged by failure - or you can learn from it. So go ahead and make mistakes. Make all you can. Because, remember that's where you'll find success. On the far side." ~ Thomas J. Watson, 1874-1956, Chairman of IBM
~ Musawenkosi Tshoaele