Friday, July 13, 2012

The Love for My Baby Sister & What it Has Taught Me

My sister came back home for her 2nd semester break.

It's an awesome time when she's around. Something priceless about it.

We are the only two siblings in the family, with her being the youngest (and somehow the smartest), so I appreciate the time I am with her since she spends most of her time in res' (residents) while studying at the Pretoria University.

She brings out the best in me. And I love her beyond reason for that, amongst other things.

I say this because one day I decided to really hear HER views and what SHE thought instead of forcing her to think and see things MY way.

Something she never yielded to, and I love her for that.

I used to question and probe and even try to manipulate her into seeing things my way.

But I never could and I'm glad she never gave in to my selfish need for gratification.

She is an individual.

She is unique.

There is no one exactly like her in the world.

She truly is a once in a lifetime phenomena.

And wanting her to be any other way takes the fun out of my association with her. Because I get the most out of her when I allow her to just be her, to just be awesome.

I also cut myself short of my personal development in a way by wanting her to surrender to my will.

Because I don't allow myself to experience the joy in having an opposing view. I get moody and feel like my ego as been being wronged in a way.

And I think that's when conflict begins, not in my intimate relationship with my beautiful sister but in all relationships.

As in when I make it an ego-based interaction and not a love-based interaction.

I don't know maybe this is coming through due to my current read by billionaire Dale Carnegie, How to Influence People and Win Friends, which by the way amazon has a kindle version of going for under $13 at the time of this posting.

But like any other self help material offering you life improving tools, the money is in the application...not the knowledge.

I'm having a joyous time with people that I love not because I KNOW what I know thanks to the success principles I come across, but because I USE what I KNOW.

Lawrence Fishburne playing the character Morpheus in the movie The Matrix said it best when he said, “There's a difference between knowing the path, and walking the path."

I might as well not know it if I don't use it right?

Thank you.

I love you.

~ Musawenkosi Tshoaele

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